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Kad\u0131n\u0131n Ad\u0131 Var M\u0131?<\/span>
\n<\/strong>Merhabalar sevgili dostlar\u0131m. S\u0131caklar alabildi\u011fine insan\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya sokmad\u0131. Benim gibi ya\u015f\u0131 elliyi ge\u00e7enleri, hele bir de kalp ya da tansiyon sorunu varsa art\u0131k sormay\u0131n gitsin, g\u00fcne\u015f mi sizinle, siz mi g\u00fcne\u015fle u\u011fra\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z bilemem. Benim i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fck bir s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 g\u00fcne\u015f ile u\u011fra\u015fmas\u0131 vesselam.<\/p>\n

<\/strong>Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn rahats\u0131zland\u0131m. Ye\u015filyurt Devlet Hastanesi bana alt\u0131 y\u00fcz metre mesafede oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in y\u00fcr\u00fcyerek gittim. Sabah saat 10.30 olmas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131n \u00f6yle bir s\u0131cak vard\u0131 ki, elimdeki su \u015fi\u015fesinden iki defa birka\u00e7 yudum su almak zorunda kald\u0131m. Bayanlar\u0131, erkekleri, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Hele hastanenin yan\u0131na vard\u0131\u011f\u0131mda hastanenin \u00e7evresi \u00f6yle ilgin\u00e7 bir manzara alm\u0131\u015f ki, do\u011frusunu isterseniz hepsi de \u00fclkemin manzaras\u0131n\u0131 aynen yans\u0131t\u0131yordu. Baz\u0131 erkeklerin han\u0131mlar\u0131na; \u201c \u00c7ocuklara dikkat et, sa\u011fa sola kaybolmas\u0131.\u201d Emrine kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, han\u0131mlar\u0131n bitkinlikleri y\u00fczlerinden okunuyor; \u201cevet\u201d dercesine ba\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 yukar\u0131 emme basma tulumba gibi sallad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm.\u00a0 Yaln\u0131z, kad\u0131nlar ile erkeklerin bir birlerine kar\u015f\u0131 hareket tarzlar\u0131 ise ne yaz\u0131k ki bask\u0131 hegemonyas\u0131n\u0131n hastanede de devam ettirmek istemeleri ve bunun a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6r\u00fclmesi. Peki kendisinin g\u00f6revi ne? Orada kar\u0131 koca beraber gelmi\u015fsiniz, s\u0131ra bekliyorsunuz, o halde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 aran\u0131zda payla\u015f\u0131p baksan\u0131z ya da s\u0131rayla denetim alt\u0131na alsan\u0131z olmaz m\u0131? Hay\u0131r, olmaz, kad\u0131n evde de, d\u0131\u015far\u0131da da, tarlada da hizmet kard\u0131r \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. Erkek sadece emir verir, emirler yerine getirilir. <\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Ben bunlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken acilin i\u00e7ine girdim. Kayd\u0131m\u0131 yapt\u0131r\u0131p bir sedyenin \u00fczerinde dinlenmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. Doktor yan\u0131ma geldi gerekli g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeyi yapt\u0131 ve gitti. Daha sonras\u0131 m\u0131, ne olsun dostlar, hastanede iki saat misafir oldum. \u0130ki saat sonra yolcu olacakt\u0131m. Oturur vaziyette uzand\u0131\u011f\u0131m sedyeden ayn\u0131 zamanda yine \u00e7evreyi dinlemeye ve izlemeye devam ettim. \u00d6yle ilgin\u00e7 hastalar geliyordu ki, gelenlerin \u00e7o\u011fu k\u0131rk be\u015f ya\u015f \u00fcst\u00fc. Hemen hemen \u00e7o\u011funda s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 yaln\u0131zl\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyordu. Ben de evde yaln\u0131z oldu\u011fum i\u00e7in hastaneye iki saatli\u011fine gitmemi\u015f miydim?\u00a0<\/p>\n

<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar olup biterken Bir g\u00fcn \u00f6nce bir \u015fiir okumu\u015ftum. O akl\u0131ma geldi ve dilime tak\u0131ld\u0131. \u201cKad\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0131 var m\u0131, kad\u0131n\u0131n mevsimi var m\u0131, kad\u0131n bir \u00e7i\u00e7ek midir, kad\u0131n bazen bor, bazen de sakin olur\u2026\u201d gibi devam ediyordu. \u00c7ok d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. Ne dersiniz dostlar, kad\u0131n i\u00e7in ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz?\u00a0<\/p>\n

<\/span><\/span><\/strong>Bana g\u00f6re; kad\u0131n\u0131n ne mevsimi bellidir, ne de a\u00e7an \u00e7i\u00e7e\u011fin \u00e7e\u015fidi. Sakin olur, bazen h\u00fcz\u00fcnlenir hazan mevsimini and\u0131r\u0131r. Z\u00fcmb\u00fcller a\u00e7ar tarlalar\u0131nda. Terkedili\u015finde, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda; bora olur, f\u0131rt\u0131na olur, bazen kar olur, bazen tipi olur, bazen dolu olup ya\u011far ve i\u015fte o an ondan korkulur ama art\u0131k ge\u00e7 kal\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Sadece safl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 da KARDELEN \u00e7i\u00e7ekleri a\u00e7maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r yama\u00e7lar\u0131nda.<\/p>\n

<\/span><\/span><\/strong>G\u00f6nl\u00fc ho\u015f, sevdal\u0131s\u0131 yan\u0131nda olunca de\u011fmeyin keyfine; her taraf misk\u00fc amber kokular\u0131 ile dolar. G\u00fcl\u00fc, nergisi, lalesi, papatyas\u0131, sardunyas\u0131 ayr\u0131 koku salar. Art\u0131k huzur doludur i\u00e7erisi.<\/p>\n

<\/strong>Bazen k\u0131zd\u0131r\u0131rlar, bazen kendisi k\u0131zar ancak bu mevsimde bunlarda olur, bunlarda gelip ge\u00e7er denilir. S\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla ortay\u0131 kas\u0131p kavurur. Merhametlidir kad\u0131n. Merhametlidir anne. G\u00f6\u011fs\u00fcne ta\u015f basar, yavrusunu korur yak\u0131c\u0131 s\u0131ca\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131. Korur yuvas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kmak isteyen d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131n yak\u0131c\u0131 yalanlar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131. Yuvas\u0131n\u0131 korur kad\u0131n. <\/strong><\/span><\/span>Bu bir kader de\u011fil, bu bir al\u0131n yaz\u0131s\u0131 de\u011fil. Bu ne aldat\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k ne de aldat\u0131lmakt\u0131r. Al\u0131n yaz\u0131s\u0131 ise asla de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

<\/strong>Bu olsa olsa kendini erkek sanan, her ortamda havaya giren, ben erke\u011fim; hem severim, hem d\u00f6verim diyen s\u00f6z\u00fcm ona erkek m\u00fcsveddelerinin kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131za kat\u0131ks\u0131z ihanetidir. Ac\u0131 \u00e7ektirirler, sonra da ben erke\u011fim der. Aldatmak sanki erkekli\u011fin hakk\u0131ym\u0131\u015f gibi. <\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Ger\u00e7ek bir kad\u0131n bir defa, erkek m\u00fcsveddesi ise bin defa geberir, Ger\u00e7ek kad\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fckten sonra da olsa el \u00fcst\u00fcnde tutup hakk\u0131nda \u00f6vg\u00fcler yaparlar. Sahte erkekler geberince; y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131 gitti kefere de rahat geldi diye yergi yaparlar.<\/p>\n

<\/span><\/strong>Ne dersiniz dostlar\u0131m. Biz erkekler kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten haks\u0131zl\u0131k yapm\u0131yor muyuz? Onlar\u0131 k\u0131rm\u0131yor muyuz? Onlar\u0131 koruyal\u0131m, g\u00f6zetelim demiyorum. K\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n da okumas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayal\u0131m. Kad\u0131n ve erkeklerin e\u015fit haklara sahip oldu\u011funu akl\u0131m\u0131zdan yitirmeyelim. Kendi nefsimize, kendi \u015feytani emellerimize, k\u00f6r nefsimizi tatmin etme sevdas\u0131na uyup yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her t\u00fcrl\u00fc ihanetin bir bedelini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. Biz ihanet ediyorsak, ayn\u0131 durumu onlar\u0131n yerine koyarak bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc verelim. Bir \u00e7ok erkek e\u015fi kendisini aldat\u0131rsa; bu i\u015fi namus paklar diyerek i\u015flenen cinayetler yok mu? Ey erkekler; e\u015finiz aldat\u0131nca namus belas\u0131 oluyor, kur\u015fun ya\u011fmuru oluyor da siz aldat\u0131nca m\u0131 efendilik kabul etti\u011finiz \u015ferefsizliklere de kur\u015fun s\u0131k\u0131lmas\u0131n m\u0131? Aldatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z e\u015finiz de bu bir namus belas\u0131 deyip size kur\u015fun s\u0131kmas\u0131n m\u0131? Her neyse dostlar\u0131m. Konu\u015fulacak o kadar \u00e7ok s\u00f6zler var ki, s\u00f6z\u00fc uzatmadan \u015fimdilik burada keselim.<\/p>\n

<\/span><\/strong>Sayg\u0131lar\u0131mla.<\/p>\n

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Kad\u0131n\u0131n Ad\u0131 Var M\u0131?
\nMerhabalar sevgili dostlar\u0131m. S\u0131caklar alabildi\u011fine insan\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya sokmad\u0131. Benim gibi ya\u015f\u0131 elliyi ge\u00e7enleri, hele bir de kalp ya da tansiyon sorunu varsa art\u0131k sormay\u0131n gitsin, g\u00fcne\u015f mi sizinle, siz mi g\u00fcne\u015fle u\u011fra\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z bilemem. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-makalelerhuseyindurmus"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=41"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=41"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=41"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=41"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}