{"id":174,"date":"2010-12-25T10:35:37","date_gmt":"2010-12-25T10:35:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/?p=174"},"modified":"2010-12-25T10:35:37","modified_gmt":"2010-12-25T10:35:37","slug":"duygular1-yalnizlik-hissi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/?p=174","title":{"rendered":"Duygular1 Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k Hissi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: small; color: #ff00ff; font-family: book antiqua,palatino;\"><strong>Duygular1 Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k Hissi<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/span><span style=\"font-size: x-small; color: #000000; font-family: verdana,geneva;\">Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, insan\u0131n d\u00fcnyadan kopmas\u0131, kendi kabu\u011funa, \u00e7ekilmesi bir bo\u015fluk hissi ya\u015famas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan\u0131n, kalabal\u0131k ortamda dahi yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissine kap\u0131lmas\u0131 ise ba\u015fkalar\u0131 ile kurdu\u011fu ileti\u015fimde bir anlams\u0131zl\u0131k ya\u015famas\u0131ndan kaynaklanmaktad\u0131r. Bu anlams\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n temelinde ise, terk edilme, d\u0131\u015flanma, g\u00fcvensizlik, umutsuzluk, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, depresyon vb gibi olumsuz duygu sentezleri vard\u0131r.<br \/>\nYaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissine kap\u0131lan insanda ya kimsenin kendi sevgisine lay\u0131k olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da kendisinin, kimsenin sevgisine lay\u0131k olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi h\u00e2kimdir. Temel olarak sevgi ve g\u00fcven eksikli\u011fi ileti\u015fimi anlams\u0131z k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissi kendini \u00e7ok \u00e7abuk g\u00f6sterir.<br \/>\nBu yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissi, bilerek isteyerek tek ba\u015f\u0131na ya\u015fama, tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalma ile ayn\u0131 de\u011fildir. Burada ki\u015fi yaln\u0131z ya\u015famaktan zevk ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in yaln\u0131zd\u0131r. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissi ise, iste\u011finin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ya\u015fanan olumsuzluklardan, sevgisizlikten, ilgi ve ileti\u015fimin manas\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kaynaklanan bir histir.<br \/>\nDaha \u00e7ok g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131nda olumsuzluklar ya\u015fayan, manen ruhu a\u00e7 olan, olaylar\u0131, insanlar\u0131 s\u00fcrekli sorgulayan, \u201cneden\u201d sorusuna cevap arayan ama bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yolunu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemeyen insanlarda g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr bu yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissi. \u00c7evresindeki insanlar\u0131n kendisini anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yler durur bu hisse kap\u0131lanlar. \u0130leti\u015fimde s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 \u00e7eker. Arkada\u015flar\u0131yla, akrabalar\u0131yla, ailesiyle bir arada, g\u00fczel bir e\u011flence mek\u00e2n\u0131nda bile olsa o yine yaln\u0131zd\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc i\u00e7inde var olan duygular\u0131 net olarak ifade edebilecek, g\u00f6z\u00fcyle, g\u00f6nl\u00fcyle sevebilecek en \u00f6nemlisi g\u00fcvenebilecek birileri yoktur yan\u0131nda. Ailesi de d\u00e2hil olmak \u00fczere herkese kar\u015f\u0131 bir \u015f\u00fcphe duyar ve adeta bu \u015f\u00fcphe onu, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n merkezinde tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalm\u0131\u015f, anla\u015f\u0131lmay\u0131 bekleyen biri hale getirir. Bu yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissine kap\u0131lan insanlar\u0131n, depresyon i\u00e7inde olabilecekleri a\u015fik\u00e2rd\u0131r. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck olumsuz ya\u015fant\u0131lar ve nihayetinde barda\u011f\u0131n son damlas\u0131n\u0131n gelmesiyle b\u00fcy\u00fck bir olumsuzlu\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcverir. B\u00f6ylece ki\u015fi, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n doru\u011funda bir hayat s\u00fcrmeye ba\u015flar.<br \/>\nNewton \u201c\u0130nsanlar k\u00f6pr\u00fc kuracaklar\u0131 yerde duvar \u00f6rd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in yaln\u0131z kal\u0131rlar\u201d derken ileti\u015fimde \u00f6r\u00fclen duvarlar\u0131n, kurulamayan diyalog k\u00f6pr\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn insan\u0131 yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissine nas\u0131l itti\u011fini anlatmaktad\u0131r. Anlaml\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim k\u00f6pr\u00fcs\u00fc kurabilmek i\u00e7in; g\u00fcven harc\u0131na, sevgi demirine ihtiya\u00e7 vard\u0131r. G\u00f6n\u00fclden g\u00f6n\u00fcle akman\u0131n en kestirme yolu ileti\u015fim k\u00f6pr\u00fcs\u00fcd\u00fcr. O halde laz\u0131m olan malzeme, g\u00fcven ve sevgidir. Herkese \u015f\u00fcphe ile bakan, \u201cacaba m\u0131?\u201d sorusu ile teredd\u00fctl\u00fc ili\u015fkiler kurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini tan\u0131madan \u00f6n yarg\u0131 ile olumsuz h\u00fckm\u00fc veren insanlar\u0131n kurduklar\u0131 k\u00f6pr\u00fcler k\u0131sa \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fcd\u00fcr. Ve hep ayn\u0131 zihniyetle yap\u0131l\u0131rsa bu k\u00f6pr\u00fcler her defas\u0131nda y\u0131k\u0131lmaya mahk\u00fbm olacakt\u0131r. Bir zaman gelecek, art\u0131k ki\u015fi, nas\u0131l olsa bu k\u00f6pr\u00fc de y\u0131k\u0131lacak diyerek hi\u00e7 k\u00f6pr\u00fc kurmaya ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r. Hatta daha da ileri giderek, kar\u015f\u0131da yap\u0131lmakta olan k\u00f6pr\u00fcn\u00fcn kendisine uzanmas\u0131n\u0131 da engellemek i\u00e7in duvarlar \u00f6rmeye ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r. Akabinde ise, ya\u015fanan yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissinin yarataca\u011f\u0131 travma, psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131klar ve psikosomatik hastal\u0131klar ard\u0131 s\u0131ra gelecektir.<br \/>\nG\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde birilerine g\u00fcvenmek, inanmak pek kolay de\u011fil. Do\u011fru. \u201cElini versen kolunu kapt\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n\u201d zihniyetiyle pek \u00e7ok birey birer duvar \u00f6rmekle me\u015fgul. Bu da do\u011fru. Lakin sevinci de kederi de payla\u015fmak, g\u00fcven \u00e7emberinde bir birey olmak imk\u00e2ns\u0131z da de\u011fil. \u0130llaki g\u00fcven duyulabilecek, sevilmeye de\u011fer ve bizim sevgimize de lay\u0131k insanlar vard\u0131r. \u00d6nemli olan bu insanlar\u0131 aray\u0131p bulmakt\u0131r. Bunun i\u00e7in ilk yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken ise, \u00f6n yarg\u0131y\u0131 k\u0131r\u0131p insanlar\u0131 tan\u0131mak i\u00e7in onlara \u015fans vermektir. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissi bizim elimizde olmayan nedenlerle kap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z fakat elimizde olan \u00e7arelerle imha edebilece\u011fimiz bir histir. O halde, bizi rahats\u0131z eden, toplumdan, olaylardan, zamandan soyutlayan bu histen kurtulmak i\u00e7in kollar\u0131 s\u0131vaman\u0131n tam zaman\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yaln\u0131zl\u0131k Allah\u2019a mahsustur. \u0130nsan yaln\u0131z ya\u015fayamaz. Ya\u015famaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsa da ona \u201cya\u015fayan bir \u00f6l\u00fc\u201d tabiri ile bak\u0131l\u0131r. Bu bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 k\u0131rmak yeniden ya\u015fama d\u00f6nmek i\u00e7in yeniden manal\u0131 ileti\u015fim k\u00f6pr\u00fcleri kurmaya ba\u015flayal\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Elvan USUL<br \/>\nOcak 2009<br \/>\nKulvar Gazetesi<br \/>\n<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.kafiye.net\/\"><span style=\"font-size: x-small; color: #000000; font-family: verdana,geneva;\">www.kafiye.net<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Duygular1 Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k Hissi Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, insan\u0131n d\u00fcnyadan kopmas\u0131, kendi kabu\u011funa, \u00e7ekilmesi bir bo\u015fluk hissi ya\u015famas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan\u0131n, kalabal\u0131k ortamda dahi yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissine kap\u0131lmas\u0131 ise ba\u015fkalar\u0131 ile kurdu\u011fu ileti\u015fimde bir anlams\u0131zl\u0131k ya\u015famas\u0131ndan kaynaklanmaktad\u0131r. Bu anlams\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n temelinde ise, terk edilme, d\u0131\u015flanma, g\u00fcvensizlik, umutsuzluk, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, depresyon vb gibi olumsuz duygu sentezleri vard\u0131r. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissine kap\u0131lan insanda ya [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-174","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-makaleelvinusul-makaleler"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=174"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=174"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=174"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=174"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}