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EMPAT\u0130 (E\u015eDUYUM)
\n<\/strong><\/span>Empati, bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n duygular\u0131, i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fu durum ya da motivasyonunu anlamak i\u00e7in i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmektir. \u0130nsan\u0131n kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131na yans\u0131tmak anlam\u0131nda da kullan\u0131l\u0131r. Halk aras\u0131nda, kendini ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n yerine koymak, onun gibi hissetmek olarak bilinen empati, pek \u00e7ok insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmede zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve hatta d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek bile istemedi\u011fi bir duygudur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, empati kurmak i\u00e7in, kar\u015f\u0131daki insan\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmesi, kendini onun \u015fartlar\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesi, onun ya\u015fam standartlar\u0131n\u0131 ve onun etraf\u0131nda geli\u015fen olay zincirini de\u011ferlendirmesi k\u0131sacas\u0131 onu hissetmesi gerekmektedir. Bu da \u00e7ok kolay olmamakla birlikte kar\u015f\u0131daki insan\u0131 do\u011fru anlamay\u0131 sa\u011flar ve hatta bazen bizim hatal\u0131 oldu\u011fumuzu ispatlayabilir. Belki de hatay\u0131, kusuru kendimizde g\u00f6rmekten ho\u015fnut olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan dolay\u0131 empati kurmaya gerek bile duymadan kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 su\u00e7lar konuyu kapat\u0131r\u0131z.
\nEmpati, sadece hata, kusur ve yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda kurulmaz tabi ki. Ki\u015fileri do\u011fru anlamak, insan ili\u015fkilerini geli\u015ftirmek, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilmek i\u00e7in de empati kurulabilir. Ama en \u00e7ok yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131k ve olumsuz olaylar\u0131n ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlarda empatiye ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z vard\u0131r. Toplum i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z s\u00fcrece, insan ili\u015fkilerinde mutlaka az veya \u00e7ok problemler \u00e7\u0131kar. Bu problemlerin \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc, ki\u015fileri ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 do\u011fru anlama, yorumlama noktas\u0131nda empati, \u00f6nemli bir yere sahiptir.
\nAile i\u00e7inde \u00f6zellikle gen\u00e7ler, ebeveynlerin kendilerini anlamad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, ebeveynler de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendilerini anlamakta g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck \u00e7ekti\u011finden yak\u0131n\u0131rlar. Bu kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kla anlamama yarg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc empati kurmak ve do\u011fru anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r. Ebeveynin kendini \u00e7ocu\u011funun yerine koyarak, onun duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini do\u011fru anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 ve bunu \u00e7ocu\u011funa da \u00f6\u011fretmesi belki de t\u00fcm anlam karga\u015fal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ortadan kald\u0131racak en \u00f6nemli y\u00f6ntemdir. Empati sayesindedir ki, aile i\u00e7i problemler \u00e7orap s\u00f6k\u00fc\u011f\u00fc gibi \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcr gider. Zaten problemlerin temeline bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ileti\u015fim kopuklu\u011fu g\u00f6r\u00fclmektedir. Kar\u015f\u0131daki insan\u0131 do\u011fru anlayan biri, hal ve hareketlerini bildi\u011fi do\u011frular ile y\u00f6nlendirir. B\u00f6ylece problemler en aza iner.
\nAile i\u00e7indeki problemlerin \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc, daha huzurlu ve mutlu bir ge\u00e7im i\u00e7in \u00f6nem arz eden empati, toplum ya\u015fam\u0131 i\u00e7in de ayn\u0131 derece \u00f6nemlidir. Zira insanlar birbirlerini do\u011fru anlad\u0131k\u00e7a, kar\u015f\u0131daki insan\u0131n hangi olaya nas\u0131l tepki verece\u011fini bildi\u011fi s\u00fcrece davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ona g\u00f6re ayarlar. Ki\u015filere g\u00f6re bir tutum geli\u015ftirdik\u00e7e de huzur yerini bulur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, herkes kime nas\u0131l davranaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilir, k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131klar, kavgalar \u00f6nlenmi\u015f olur.
\n\u201cBebekler \u00fczerinde yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re, empati yetene\u011fi do\u011fu\u015ftan y\u00fcksektir fakat \u015fartlara g\u00f6re h\u0131zla kaybedilebilen bir yetenektir. Empati yetene\u011finin sonradan tekrar kazan\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in, baz\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar yap\u0131labilir. Empati, muhakeme g\u00fcc\u00fc ile do\u011frudan ilgilidir. Bunun i\u00e7in de, ucu a\u00e7\u0131k sorular sormak, yava\u015f hareket etmek ve yorumda bulunmak, \u00e7ok \u00e7abuk yarg\u0131ya varmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmak, kendi davran\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, ge\u00e7mi\u015ften ders almak, olaylar\u0131 ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na b\u0131rakmak ve kendimiz ve kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 i\u00e7in belli s\u0131n\u0131rlar olu\u015fturmakt\u0131r.(vikipedi)\u201d
\n\u0130nsan ili\u015fkileri, kar\u015f\u0131dakini anlamakla ba\u015flar. Kar\u015f\u0131daki insanlar\u0131 kendi yap\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce, ya\u015fam felsefemize g\u00f6re de\u011ferlendirdi\u011fimizde yanl\u0131\u015f anlamalar ortaya \u00e7\u0131kabilmektedir. Bu yanl\u0131\u015f anlamalar\u0131n ortadan kalkmas\u0131, do\u011fru ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim i\u00e7in empati kurma yetene\u011fimizi geli\u015ftirmeliyiz. Yoksa kavgalar\u0131n g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fclerin sonu hi\u00e7bir zaman gelmez. Huzurlu, mutlu ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ya\u015fam i\u00e7in empati yetene\u011fimizi geli\u015ftirmek, \u00fczerinde -\u00f6zellikle kendimiz i\u00e7in- \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak durumunday\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Elvan USUL
\n\u015eubat 2009
\nKulvar Gazetesi
\nwww.kafiye.net<\/a>
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EMPAT\u0130 (E\u015eDUYUM) Empati, bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n duygular\u0131, i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fu durum ya da motivasyonunu anlamak i\u00e7in i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmektir. \u0130nsan\u0131n kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131na yans\u0131tmak anlam\u0131nda da kullan\u0131l\u0131r. Halk aras\u0131nda, kendini ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n yerine koymak, onun gibi hissetmek olarak bilinen empati, pek \u00e7ok insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmede zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve hatta d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek bile istemedi\u011fi bir duygudur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, empati kurmak i\u00e7in, kar\u015f\u0131daki insan\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-172","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-makaleelvinusul-makaleler"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=172"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=172"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=172"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kafiye.net\/2011\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=172"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}