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\n<\/strong><\/span>\u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fc, olmas\u0131n\u0131 istemedi\u011fimiz bir durum kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda hissetti\u011fimiz ruh tedirginli\u011fidir. Kendi fikrimize, ya\u015fant\u0131m\u0131za, bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131za veya olmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fimiz olay ve olgulara ters d\u00fc\u015fen her \u015fey \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcye neden olmaktad\u0131r. Bazen de\u011fer verip sevdi\u011fimiz birini kaybetmek bazen al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir d\u00fczeni istemedi\u011fimiz \u015fekilde de\u011fi\u015ftirme zorunlulu\u011funu ya\u015famak, bazen k\u0131rmak, k\u0131r\u0131lmak bazen zarar g\u00f6rmek bazen zarar vermenin pi\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famak \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerimizin temelini te\u015fkil etmektedir.<\/p>\n

\u201cBen hayatta hi\u00e7 bir \u015feye \u00fcz\u00fclmem\u201d diyip poliannac\u0131l\u0131k yapan insanlar\u0131n bile mutlaka \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc hissini ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 biliyoruz. \u0130nsan t\u00fcm z\u0131t duygularla bezenip yarat\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Gizlese de toplumda hissettirmese de g\u00f6zleri a\u011flamasa da kalbinde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir h\u00fczn\u00fc mutlaka vard\u0131r. Hayatta her \u015fey istedi\u011fimiz \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc ve do\u011frultuda y\u00fcr\u00fcmez. Zira kader ve di\u011fer insanlarla birlikte ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z d\u00fcnyada h\u00fckmedici, y\u00f6n verici t\u00fcm duygular\u0131n h\u00e2kimi biz de\u011filiz. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fc insani bir duygu olup \u201cben \u00fcz\u00fclmem, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc nedir bilmem\u201d diyenlerin ise \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerini gizlediklerini belki de bunu bir zay\u0131fl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fcklerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek daha do\u011fru olur.<\/p>\n

Hafif derece ya\u015fanan \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc insan\u0131 \u00e7ok fazla sarsmamakta ve olmas\u0131 tabii olan bir duygudur. Lakin \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc derecesi art\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ise ki\u015fiye zarar verici hale d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilmektedir. A\u011flay\u0131p ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131rmakla birlikte uzun s\u00fcre \u00fczerinden at\u0131lamayan, silikle\u015ftirilemeyen \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcler ki\u015filerin rahats\u0131zlanmas\u0131na, depresyon, anksiyete bozuklu\u011fu vb psikolojik hastal\u0131klara maruz kalmas\u0131na neden olabilmektedir. Bir yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6lmesi, bo\u015fanma ve ayr\u0131l\u0131klar, maddi kay\u0131plar, istek ve arzular\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcndeki engellere kar\u015f\u0131 zay\u0131f kalmak, kavgayla neticelenen tart\u0131\u015fmalar, fikir uyu\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131, i\u015fsiz kalma, gelecek endi\u015fesi ya\u015fama gibi olumsuz ya\u015fant\u0131lar\u0131n neticesi olan \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcler a\u011f\u0131r gelmekle birlikte uzun s\u00fcreli de olabilmektedir. Ki\u015fi burada eli kolu ba\u011flanm\u0131\u015f gibi hisseder ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile birlikte \u00fcmitleri de azalabilir. Kendisini yenilmi\u015f, art\u0131k \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm arayan de\u011fil de \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kabullenmi\u015f bir duyguya kap\u0131labilir. \u0130\u015fte \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerin b\u00f6yle bir duyguya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi ki\u015finin hayata k\u00fcsmesine ve netice itibari ile depresyon ya\u015famas\u0131na neden olabilmektedir.
\nAllah kullar\u0131n\u0131 yarat\u0131rken \u201cunutma\u201d gibi bir g\u00fczelli\u011fi de vermi\u015ftir. Candan ER\u00c7ET\u0130N bir \u015fark\u0131s\u0131nda, \u201c en derin yaralar unutuluyorsa, ben neden a\u011flayay\u0131m s\u00f6yleyin bana\u201d diyor. Zaman i\u00e7inde \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck ac\u0131lar ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc kaynaklar\u0131 tamam\u0131yla unutulmasa bile, ilk ya\u015fanan an kadar ac\u0131 ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc vermiyor. O halde ilk \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcn\u00fcn hissedildi\u011fi, ac\u0131n\u0131n can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ok fazlas\u0131yla yakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 anda bunu akl\u0131m\u0131za getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131z. Zaten halk aras\u0131nda \u015f\u00f6yle bir tabir de vard\u0131r; \u201cinsan be\u015ferdir, \u015fa\u015far da d\u00fc\u015fer de, elbet bu da ge\u00e7ecek, vard\u0131r bir hay\u0131r\u0131\u201d. Bu tabir kimi zaman bir teselli veya teskin edici g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de do\u011fru olan\u0131d\u0131r. Hayatta \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerin derin \u00e7ukurluklarda ya da kumsaldaki kumlarda ya\u015fanmas\u0131 bizim elimizdedir. Kimi zaman \u201cTakdiri \u0130lahidir\u201d diyip \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm odakl\u0131 davranma, kimi zaman \u201c d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm ama elbet kalkaca\u011f\u0131m\u201d diyip dirayetli olma, kimi zaman ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde olaylar\u0131 ve ya\u015fananlar\u0131 abartmay\u0131p \u201cd\u00fczelir, ge\u00e7er\u201d diyip zamana b\u0131rakma belki de \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerin sahillerdeki kumlardan silinmesini sa\u011flayacakt\u0131r. Bunun yerine, \u201cneden, neden, neden?\u201d diye kendi kendimizi yiyip bitirmek \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerin cehennem \u00e7ukurundan bir \u00e7ukurda ya\u015fanmas\u0131na meydan vermek zarardan ba\u015fka bir \u015fey getirmeyecektir.<\/p>\n

Ayakkab\u0131m yok diye \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcyordum, ayaklar\u0131 olmayan bir \u00e7ocuk g\u00f6rene kadar. (Anatole France)<\/p>\n

Anatole France o kadar g\u00fczel \u00f6zetlemi\u015f ki; \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerimizin belki de geni\u015f d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemememizden kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n merkezine kendimizi oturtup ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6remedi\u011fimizi. Hayatta g\u00fclmek kadar a\u011flamak da vard\u0131r. Mutluluk kadar \u00fcz\u00fclmek de vard\u0131r. Allah ayetlerinde, \u201c Biz z\u0131tl\u0131klar\u0131 bir arada verdik\u201d diyor. Olumlu ya da olumsuz ya\u015fanan her ne olursa olsun, biz insanlar\u0131n duygular\u0131n\u0131 harekete ge\u00e7irir. Bu hareketlenmenin dozunu elimize al\u0131p ayar\u0131n\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rmadan, kendimize ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na zarar vermeden ya\u015famay\u0131 hayat\u0131m\u0131zda bir felsefe edinmeliyiz. B\u00f6ylelikle duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n incinmesiyle meydana gelebilecek bir tak\u0131m olumsuzluklar\u0131 \u00f6nleyebilir, mutluluklar\u0131n kal\u0131c\u0131 ve s\u00fcre\u011fen olmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayabiliriz. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerimizi mutlulu\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrme yolunda hayata bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131nda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir de\u011fi\u015ftirme bizim i\u00e7in yeterli olacakt\u0131r. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerinizin sizi \u00fczmemesini temenni ediyorum.<\/p>\n

Elvan USUL
\n\u015eubat 2009
\nKulvar Gazetesi
\nwww.kafiye.net<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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